Out with Mr. and Mrs. and in with…WHAT? I need help. I have no idea what kids should call me or what I should have my kids call other adults.
Growing up, addressing adults was not up for debate.
“Don’t forget to say thank you for having me Mr. and Mrs. Jackson”. Yes, mom. Got it.
“Mr. Jackson, is Kate home?”
“Mrs. Jackson, can I borrow your phone to call my mom?”
Sometime in the 90’s things started to change. I got old and got a job and started working with people my parents’ age and calling them by their first name. This felt very strange for a while and I just stopped addressing people with their name until I could get used to it.
My friends’ parents and my parent’s friends (often the same people) were begging me to stop calling them Mr. and Mrs. So and So and to use their first names; also a very uncomfortable transition. Sometimes I still just shout out “Hi!” give them a hug and hope I won’t have a need to call them out by name.
Well now it is my turn to be the adult among children and the kids are just as confused as I am as to what they should call me. As they get older it gets that much more awkward, don’t you think? A 3 year old calling me Sarah is pretty cute. But an 8 year old? A 10 year old or a 15 year old? I don’t know.
The trouble is, I don’t have a good alternative. Often if they need to get my attention they call me (insert applicable child’s name)’s mom. Which is fine by me for now, but I’m not sure if its a great long term plan. I have been called Mrs. Dyer once and the child using it was testing it out and I don’t think has used it since. Sometimes I try to get my kids to call adults Miss or Mr. First Name. But I’m not consistent enough with it to make it stick.
This is my plea for help to end the confusion. What should we be using? What do you have your kids call other adults or what do you have kids call you?
With many thanks,
L, A and W’s mom/Sarah/Miss Sarah/Mrs. Dyer